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27 juillet 2010 2 27 /07 /juillet /2010 19:56

I will here copy an extract of a LinkedIn discussion about Hidden sexual abuse”. While answering the question, I explained one of my ways of using EFT on the Inner Child, as I didn’t write on the “English spot” of the blog for a long while, I thought there might be a good opportunity to reconnect!


First of all, the beginning of the discussion, which gives the core of the problem : (you can follow the discussion there : http://www.linkedin.com/groupAnswers?viewQuestionAndAnswers=&discussionID=17513154&gid=1021667&commentID=20079256&trk=view_disc)

“Hidden sexual abuse

A client of mine came to me with questions about relationships. When we dove into that topic, suddenly a hidden memory of sexual abuse came up. In a later session another one came up. This client has extreme problems dealing with this. She has strong physical reactions ( like vomiting) tapping is not helping enough until know. I try to work disassociate with her, but she is diving in to it anyway. At the same time she is holding back because she is too afraid for the emotional response.
I try to contact Lori Lorenz, but cannot find het email address.
Any help or tip will do..... »


A possible answer (mine !) :

My first thought was : "what is wrong with vomiting ?"
As a therapist I would tap first first on however troubles me there.
I notice that whatever we may have dropped the control we still put a judgment.
And if the client challenges the judgment, vomiting could be a great thing.
Or challenges the "ability" to work with hot cases. I had a workshop the other day, with the weirdest abreaction (not to EFT, I never had any... but to some bad health news she had the very morning). I even thought to call the 18 - French equivalent of 911 !!! I just welcome that possibility and drop any questioning. From there it has been OK, with time, with lots of tapping and other tools. Eventually everyone was still "there" and together. It has been a great lesson !
And the patient will come back for some private sessions, feeling "safer" !
That could just be such an issue: feeling secure, not feeling judge.
Or judge "vomiting" the memory in a dramatic and very LIFEFUL way ! (Quite creative indeed).
Some need to "materialize" the progress.
In any case a good health check-up to valid zero organic trouble would also be my advise if it were "my case".

Now, how "help better" (once you allow yourself to let the patient need -why not- a long time) ? There again, some people just can't let go, and the praticien who suffers from that should question the "I, Rescuer of Humanship" issue, which i run into anytime I work with a collegue bothered by "not being good enough for a case"...
We all should tap that away for good !

Technically speaking (and of course no direct work on such an issue, in fact neither for others most of the time !) I'll advise to do what I call a "preterisation", it means not working on the person here and now (not only, not yet...) but on the kid she /he were.

 Two ways there:
- Just mention loudly : "my name is"XXX" I am "XX" years old, even though... (whatever feeling felt or imagine !) I'm a gret kid ANYWAY"

- My favorite one, I thank Life for inspiring me !!!

(closing eyes, in a relaxed state, but it comes naturally, do not worry)
Do the movie technique, seeing the kid at the age of the abuse (OR at whatever age comes... you may have surprises !), you can get there by starting from the feeling NOW, and put the hand on WHERE it manifest in the body, then ask "when did you feel that the first time ?" and start from there, event though many times it is not the FIRST really, but eventually will lead to it.

Then, the person imagines entering the movie as the now grown up. Gets to meet the kid, introduces her/himself, asks the kid if he/she is welcome or not.

Respect that, please, come another time or at another age : you can ask the kid and know exactly what to do. Inner children are just great, very resourceful !!!
(from there when I say to address the kid it means you tell the grown up who just repeats insidely)

If ok, ask the kid : "how do you feel" (“why" is not an option I take there ! Rather ask "do you wanna tell me about it ?") and "Would you allow me to help you ?"


Then again, respect, and take your time... if you feel lost, just ask the kid "What do YOU want me to do ?" or another OPEN question (to be sure not to get a "no" !!!
When authorization is granted, ask if you can use EFT and start to explain a bit (just for fun : usually the kids says sthg like "eh, I know what it is" !!! I love that, opens to a bit of humor)
Then take the little hand and tap for the IP on whatever kid mentioned... and gently tap on the 7 points.
And remember that Life is one thing and its contrary so, take that into account while offering "matter" to the tapping.
Find you own ways to deal with the spiritual aspects of it, respecting the beliefs system of the patient.
When kid is ok, you can offer to bring her/him back with you, on the time line (you may meet other "kids" at other time, too long to explain but I trust you'll find what to do ! lol) and when here and now, find your own way to welcome that child in your heart, a safe and comforting place.
I love that exercise, it re-give the power to any "age" in us ! Including who we are NOW.

I hope this will help, and finish that long speech by insisting on the therapist side : "what bothers me when this happens in a session" !!!

'Coz : "whatever comes is ok" !!!
Friendly and Sharing Regards »

That’s it, in one block and with far less misspellings than in the original draft !

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27 mai 2009 3 27 /05 /mai /2009 21:16
I felt like sharing this video, but for some reasons out of my understanding, I can't dowload it here. So, please excuse me and enjy it on Youtube (thanks to Metta) : HERE !

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29 avril 2009 3 29 /04 /avril /2009 10:46

Here is an extract from Carol Look “Abundance Newsletter” (item 87), I thank her for all the nice tools she doex provide, and invite ypu to visit her site.


 Don't Wait to Feel Good...



We all think or hope that we will feel good when our circumstances change.  We are forever waiting for the new job, the raise, the new relationship, or the completed deadline before we will feel good.  But we don't have to wait for our life to change or until something outside of our control improves to feel good.  We could take back our power and feel good right now, no matter what!


How powerful would you feel if you made 

the decision to feel good right now 

even though nothing

has changed?


When we think of feeling powerless over outside events or people, we might feel weak or hopeless.  If circumstances appear to be outside of our control, we might feel angry, irritable and vulnerable.  But we don't have to feel so powerless anymore.  With one quick and clear decision to feel good right now we can take back our power.


I am very impatient and get tired of waiting, so when this concept was introduced to me, it felt exhilarating!  You mean I didn't have to wait to feel good?  That's right...I could take back the power I thought I had lost and control my personal vibration.


What if you took back your power by

choosing a good feeling instead

of waiting for it to choose you?


Our vibration is in our hands and in our control.  We don't have to wait for our life to get better, we can make it better right now by choosing to feel good.  Yes, people and events outside of ourselves can be annoying and frustrating, but it's up to us to decide to feel good or to wait... If we stop waiting for life to change, we are back in the driver's seat and can choose our vibration, and watch our life change for the better anyway.


The EFT setup phrases below will help you stop waiting to feel good.  You have the choice to feel good right now, in this minute. This decision to feel good this instant instead of waiting will automatically raise your vibration and help you attract more success and abundance into your life. 




The EFT SETUP Phrases for this topic are as follows:

While tapping the karate chop spot on either hand, repeat these phrases out loud, (or change the words to fit your exact situation).


"Even though I can't feel good yet, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway."

"Even though I can't feel good until I get what I want, I deeply and completely accept who I am and how I feel."


"Even though I don't feel good yet, I choose to accept who I am and how I feel."



***Now for the phrases that focus on the problem***



Eyebrow: "I don't feel good right now."

Side of Eye: "I can't feel good until..."

Under Eye: "I don't feel good yet."

Nose: "Something has to change before I can feel good."

Chin: "I want something to be different."

Collarbone: "It has to be different for me to feel good."

Under Arm: "I want things to be different before I feel good."

Head: "I'm convinced I can't feel good until..."



***Now for the positive focus on the solution***



Eyebrow: "What if I could feel good before it comes to me."

Side of Eye: "What if I could feel good ahead of time."

Under Eye: "What if I don't have to wait to feel good."

Nose: "Maybe I could feel good anyway."

Chin: "Maybe I could feel good before my success comes."

Collarbone: "I choose to feel good right away."

Under Arm: "I choose to feel good right now."

Head: "I choose to feel good no matter what!"



Keep tapping, and enjoy the results of raising your vibration by feeling good right now, no matter what you are waiting for! 


The EFT products below will help you focus on raising your vibration to attract more success and abundance into your life.



Hope this will make your day fantastic !


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31 janvier 2008 4 31 /01 /janvier /2008 07:07

“try to imagine....”


You remember this song ?  Well, is it that easy for you to imagine the BEST for yourself?


As my book was about to be edited, one of my editor’s collegue mentioned “we hope every book we publish will be our “bestseller of the year”.

Suddenly I felt funny  : I just could NOT think of my book this way ! Just couldn’t imagine it... and it reminded me of some other times where I had to tap for  “my lack of imagination”. But this wasn’t it....

By these strange ways my life has to give me what I need, I had opened Gary’s newsletter just before, and read Tim Watt’s “tapping for fear”. Daring to drop the fear was  the point there.

That was it : I was scared of daring to imagine a great success !


So I tapped :

“Even though I’m scared to imagine my book being “the bestseller of the year”, I do love and accept myself deeply !”

tap / “this fear”, “this lack of imagination”, “this blocage in my imagination”” and then for the positive aspects : “I dare to imagine the success ..”, “ I am happy with...”, “I thank my Life for...”


Well, you see the trick ?

I do not have the means to check on this tapping, but my phone rang just right after that : new patients coming... they have heard of my book !

(the day I was writing this article was... the day of the release ! hahaha).


Sometimes we forget that a major fear is just fearing to imagine our success in Life !

So : DARE to Imagine !


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28 janvier 2008 1 28 /01 /janvier /2008 07:00


“I do trust (my) Life unconditionaly”


Using the “Choice Technique” can appear to be quite of a challenge sometimes : what to chose ?  I sometimes feel that I am now ready to “chose it all” ! As St Therese of Avila used to say  “I chose everything !”... Well, here is my personal EFT version of that plentifulness choice !


More and more often these days, I would, while EFT-ing, get that very confortable feeling of just letting go and accept what could comme up in my Life. Ans as spontaneously I would have the irresistible need to tap “I choose to trust my Life” or “I choose to trust Life”. The former being for tiny problems and the latter when a feeling of deeper connection, I could say spiritual or existential connection is at work.


In my practise I soon got tempted to “pass the word” and there we go.... a nice homemade-taylored protocole :


1- Identify the problem and evaluate the strength of the emotion involved

2- Tap, at each point : on one side “this problem/emotion” AND on the other side “I choose to trust Life unconditionnaly”

3- Listen, re-evaluate... enjoy !


The release of the tension is immediate and get further at each point ! I am very fond of tapping one time this side/next time the other side, the change in perception is so intense sometime. It is a “ layercake” EFT version !


Patients just love it !

I do not mean that we have to skip the “choosing” step which is important, I believe. It is just another approach of treating our issues by opening widely the door to Life and its energies ! My big personal challenge being to trust Life unconditionally, to accepts its gifts and promises, its challenges.... knowing deeply that the only purpose is my spiritual growth. Life only wants us GOOD !


Thank you Gary and all contributors for such a rich mine of resources, for such a great source of inspiration !


Eft is a daily companion, and it really enlighten my Life, as a therapist, but also, deeply, as a person.

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23 novembre 2007 5 23 /11 /novembre /2007 08:41

I just got to read an article on Gary Craig’s website  and I can't help but sharing it...

So, if you do not mind I’ll just copy it. It is all about Dr Carrington’s surprise while discovering that adressing directly the insomnia problem with “I can’t sleep” while tapping mentally could just put one to sleep deeply and for a good night’s sleep !

Here it is :

(complete article there)

A Surprising Way to Use EFT for Insomnia

By Dr. Patricia Carrington

The method I am going to tell you about seemed impossible when I first heard about it, because it went against everything I know to be true about positive suggestions and the use of positive language, and the demonstrated negative impact of the phrase "I can’t". 

I discovered this unexpected use of EFT when a reader of my newsletter wrote to tell me about his own experience with it.  He tried many other sleep inducing methods, including various ways of using EFT for this purpose, but none of them had worked for him with any consistency.  Then one night, exasperated, he had applied EFT in what seemed an illogical way to bring on sleep onset, and found it to be incredibly effective.

I was appalled when he told me what his simple method was.  I know that we regularly use negative phrases in EFT, often tapping for round after round on such negative phrases as Even though I have this (negative state or problem)…, but we rarely if ever use the words "I can’t” in any of the EFT phrases.  If we do so, we follow this strong negative declaration by a positive affirmation such as I deeply and completely accept myself or an EFT Choices phrase such as, I choose to be calm and confident.

However, all this man did was say to himself, while tapping mentally (it doesn't work well to tap physically for most people when they want to quietly drift off to sleep) "I can’t get to sleep” at each imagined EFT point.  He didn't repeat "Even though" before he said the "I can’t" phrase, and he didn't use any positive affirmations after it.  He just thought to himself, "I can’t get to sleep", and it worked to put him to sleep immediately.

This of course violates a law which has over and over again been confirmed - namely that people who use the phrase, "I can’t" in their self talk (the way they speak to themselves in their mind), program themselves to be unable to do whatever it is that they are suggesting to themselves that they can’t do.  They are installing a negative suggestion in their minds.

Similarly, it has been documented in countless instances that when people use the words "I can" in their self talk, they usually find a way to make what they want happen.  This has been demonstrated so many times that anyone working with the hypnotherapies or other suggestion techniques knows it well.

Being curious about this reader’s success, I decided to try this tactic on myself.  I decided that at worst it might keep me awake all night long and since I don't have any identifiable sleep problems, missing some hours of sleep did not seem like too high a price to pay for conducting an interesting experiment.

That night when I went to bed I mentally repeated the phrase, "I can’t get to sleep," to myself at each (imagined) tapping spot.  It somehow felt good to say that because it was a sort of forbidden thing to do, but I was sound asleep before I finished either the first or second round - I really don't know which because sleep onset was so rapid.

When I awakened next morning I decided that the good result might have been due to self suggestion on my part, what is known as the “placebo effect”.  Perhaps I had simply expected or wanted this new method to work and therefore it did.

However, several days later I had another occasion to try it and once again it worked to put me to sleep, this time before the end of the first round.  Since then I have been routinely using the "I can’t get to sleep” method whenever I get into bed at night, or even if I take a nap in the daytime.  I use it routinely to avoid any pre-sleep thinking because I really don't need that kind of mental activity - I think enough the rest of the time!  This plan has worked every time.

Actually, I find there is something strangely satisfying about being able to state the words, "I can’t “openly and forcefully.  Part of me is thinking these words anyway and to hear them mentally repeated while I imagine doing the EFT tapping, somehow makes me feel heard, at which point any resistance to whatever the suggestion is that is being given fades.

An Intriguing Experiment

The “I can’t get to sleep” method of inducing sleep seemed to work so well for me that I suggested my newsletter readers try it for themselves and report to me their experiences.

In response, 33 people wrote to me immediately with reports, and since that time many more people have responded.  These latter results have been so close to those reported earlier that I feel confident reporting the investigation in this newsletter and consider that we have an adequate sample to be able to draw some tentative conclusions about how well this method works.  The sample was large enough for me to get some feel for the actual numbers out there and the intelligent, thoughtful comments that I did receive lead me to believe that this tactic is clearly worth exploring.  Here is what we found:

·               60.6% of those responding reported that this unusual method was so effective for them that they characterized it as a true breakthrough in terms of being able to get to sleep initially, or to get back to sleep later, and often they were able to do both with amazing ease.

·               24.2% of those responding reported that it worked extremely well for them at times, while at other times it did not work.  These mixed results represented a definite value for these people, however, although the method was less reliable for them than for those in the first category.

·               15.2% of those responding reported that while they had tried repeatedly to make this new method work to put them to sleep, it would not work for them.

To summarize, 84.8% of those reporting had experienced positive results with the technique ranging from "remarkable” (the majority felt this) to “Mixed" results, while 15.2% could not make the method work at all.

One of the surprising things to me was the fact that several people reported that chronic sleep problems yielded rapidly to this technique although they had tried numerous other interventions unsuccessfully over a long period of time for these same problems but to no avail.

One woman wrote: "I have not slept through the night since I was first pregnant 27 years ago, and I still awake, usually once at least, during the night and previously I could wake with anxiety which would lead to lying awake for up to an hour before returning to sleep -- sometimes having to quit and get up and get busy for a while and then try again.  Since using this tip (“I can't get to sleep”) however, I can go back to sleep quickly, and even if I am experiencing any kind of anxiety I don't need to clear the anxiety first -- it just seems to be dealt with in the process...

...One woman reported, "I am using your new technique for getting back to sleep after waking in the middle of the night to go to the bathroom.  I tried it three times in one night and went right back to sleep.  I think a couple of wake ups were due to concerns about some issue that I've now tapped away without realizing it."...

...Looking at the results of our survey, I can say with confidence that when this technique does work, it seems to work faster and more effectively than any other way of using EFT (or any other non-drug method) to bring on sleep.

I highly recommend you try this unconventional technique to see how it works for you.  Here is a quick summary of the instructions:

·               When you want to go to sleep, use mental EFT only (i.e. tap in your imagination only at each spot) so that doing EFT will not awaken you as you begin to drift off to sleep.

·               Use the paradoxical (going opposite) EFT statement, “I can't get to sleep" at each tapping point, using only these words.

·               Observe what happens…

Pat Carrington

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6 septembre 2007 4 06 /09 /septembre /2007 07:13

Dawson Church New Book

click for more info or to order !

Here is a fantastic book, easy to read. I got so enthusiastic about it that I decided to translate it in French just after reading a few pages. This may or may not lead to an editorial project, that’s not the point ! Every body should know about epigenetic. Let’s forget about the old “Central Dogma” of genetic and be aware of the true reality, scientifically proven now, that our feelings, thoughts, environment, attitude... and so on, affect directly the body functions as well as our spirits.

Méditation, prayer, relaxation, altruism, positive thinking, energy therapy ... etc : name it, it may well be part of your prescription in the medicine of the future in addition to regular drugs.

Wanna know about how to take a real good care of yourself ?

Think Epigenetic !


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8 juin 2007 5 08 /06 /juin /2007 07:11

A book to learn how to manage your health

in a positive new way !

clic !

Here is a pretty new book gathering lots of informations about the New Biology of Intention, including EFT, and other techniques of Energy Psychology. The epigenetic medicine and the most recent results about researches linked to quantum physics are presented in this book, providing lots of examples, easy exercises to train yourself.


DNA is not destiny, just barely an indicator of our emotional state of being, as genes get turned on and off, every day (or less !) according to our intentions, feelings, attitudes.

The future of medicine may be in the recognition of the potential curing effect of a “well taken care of”  thougthfield !

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30 avril 2007 1 30 /04 /avril /2007 07:16

How responsible are we.... really ?


The first time I ran into an article about Ho’oponopono, a traditional shamanic healing,  I knew at the same time that truth was carved into this wisdom.... and how difficult this truth would be to be integrated i my deeper self. My intellect could approve the concept, some parts of my being would fight against such an evidence ! As I am from a culture based on guilt, and as the Hawaian culture basically ignore guilt and refers to “responsibility”, the gap will take some time to get filled !

But in any case, I did give it a try, especially when one of my kids was feeling disturbed : the meditation time while asking to myself “what in me, makes S. disturbed” drove me to an aspect of my kid’s perception I may never have suspected !

I sure could ask him, in my heart, for forgiveness (even though I had not been conscious of the trick) and telle him how much I love him.

Then... I used EFT to help him !

But let’s get direct into the subject, now :


By Joe Vitale

"Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.

"When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.

"However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho 'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more. I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that ay. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does--but that's wrong.

"The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous.

Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.

"Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.

"'After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely,' he told me. 'Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.' I was in awe.'Not only that,' he went on, 'but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.'

"This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: 'What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?'

"'I was simply healing the part of me that created them,' he said. I didn't understand. Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life- simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.

"Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life. This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy or anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.

"I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho 'oponopono means loving yourself.

"If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone, even a mentally ill criminal you do it by healing you.

"I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?

"'I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again,' he explained.

"That's it?

"That's it.

"Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world.

"Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message.

"This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you,' I didn't say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.

"Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying 'I love you,' I somehow healed within me what was creating him.

"I later attended a ho 'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive.

He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book's vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.

"'What about the books that are already sold and out there?' I asked.

"'They aren't out there,' he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. 'They are still in you.' In short, there is no out there. It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves.

"Suffice It to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there's only one place to look: inside you. When you look, do it with love."

This article was found at :


The Hawaian traditional healing chamanism is quite “trendy” these days, you may like to follow those links :





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26 mars 2007 1 26 /03 /mars /2007 07:44

Insomnia is one of our modern world major pleas....

You may be interested in learning a new way to deal with it and get yourself completely free !

EFT is a most efficient tool to cure your insomnia.... wanna know a bit more ?

Read EFT master Carol LOOK article about it :  (click here)

And get back to a true kid's sleep !


For more information, feel free to give me a call !

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